Stockholm Syndrome

Sometimes I wonder if people in marriages or long term relationships have Stockholm Syndrome. Most exhibit many of the characteristics. Falling in love with your Captors, joining their side, admiring their cause. Doing whatever you can for them. Is this not the characteristics of marriage or a relationship? Not only that, think of those who get out of a relationship; they quickly want back in one, as though their whole identities are built around someone else. To my future reader, I urge you to find your own identities, separate from someone else. However it could be said that people are the dialectic of one another, the yin and yang of each other. As though we need them to help identify ourselves. People are intrinsically united with others it seems, like the Yin and Yang. But does that discount the Stockholm Syndrome aspect? I don't think so. What would we truly be without the companionship of others? Perhaps something better? There are people who do not enjoy the companionship of others, preferring rather the companionship of nature or of nothing. Hermits for example. However preferring the companionship of something else besides humans does not change the fact of Stockholm Syndrome. Imagine however pure nothingness, just mind in empty nothingness, its hard to do, I know. How would we act in absolute nothingness, still conscience however of our own selves? What would be our state of mind? Would we reflect on our consciousness, our own being? Would we reflect on the empty nothingness? How would one reflect on empty nothingness? Perhaps we would reflect on times of something, preferring rather to meditate on the past, before the empty nothingness. Times with nature, times with others, our family, our friends...rarely do we meditate on ourselves, alone, in a dark place. Mostly we mediate on ourselves with others, whether good times or bad. Do we prefer to meditate on others because of our Stockholm Syndrome?
Many people prefer to stay in relationships, even if they are abusive or counterproductive, but isn't all relationships abusive in some form or fashion? People seem to be on a journey to find the perfect person, but does the perfect person exist? If so most people give up on their journey and instead settle for whatever they can get.

Again we could use the dialectic here. The thesis is it is better for us to be with someone. The anti-thesis would be it is better to be with no one. Perhaps the synthesis is that it is better to find ourselves. Then, be with someone once we have done so.